Group Offerings

What You’ll Experience
Each week, participants will have several opportunities to learn, share and engage with the Finding the Way Through material. First, is through the use of psycho-education. Men will be introduced to the concepts and material that will serve to deepen their sobriety. This is where they will learn about the researched backed tools and develop the skills necessary to build more days into their recovery plan. The guided teaching, journaling, reflections prompts, and in-group experiential exercises, will help each participant develop the necessary resources to help them retain each of the different concepts of healing, reconnection, growth, and intimacy.

Secondly, will be through sharing, processing and discussion with the members of the group. Each week, men will have several opportunities to share how they applied and used the skills they learned during the previous weeks, discuss where they struggled, and gain valuable feedback and insights from the other members. The weekly meetings are a place to continually receive encouragement and support from the men walking along side one another, all while maintaining a compassionate environment.

We bring all these things together so you can to do the serious work of confronting your addiction, connecting you to the hurt and betrayal that it has caused, and helping you to rebuild honesty, trust, and vulnerability — first, within yourself, then, with trusting tribe, finally, with those you deeply care about.

Finally, let me talk with you about “Why does this group meet for 26-weeks?” This is a question I hear quite often. Most men have a number of days of sobriety in their minds, “If I can just get to 30-days I can beat this,” “If I can just get to 3-months without porn, I’ll be able to stay sober.” That’s good! You’re keeping the goal in mind but how will you make it 30-days or 3-months without a plan? That’s called “white knuckling”.

The research has shown it can take an average of 66 days to form a new habit(s)…that’s two months and some change on average. Now that is not a hard and fast rule because several factors can play a part in the first few weeks. But, what it does reveal is that something legitimate and tangible must shift in the person in order to reach 66 days. A few other insights:

• 2–4 weeks: strong urges and emotions are presenting themselves; mood instability is occurring; early wins possible but they can be fragile without the helpful resources put in place.

• 1–3 months: improved focus and fewer daily urges for many people due the change in brain chemistry; habit replacement begins to take deeper hold, and resources are becoming easier to access and use on a daily basis.

• 3–12 months: greater stability for many, the brain has been able to return to it base-line; underlying issues are being addressed in therapy and are showing their benefits; relapse risk declines but does not completely vanish without fully addressing the root system of the issue(s).

So, as you can see it takes time to develop new skills, and as you develop new skills it can reveal deeper work that will often need to be addressed. That is why we I run the group for 26-weeks, to help men not just gain a bunch information…A.I. can already do that for us! Rather, I want you to have a space where you can heal, reconnect and grow with other men traveling the same road as you!